I wanna hold your hand

We’ve always had to, or *felt* like we had to, hold Mikey’s hand or at least be in reach of him at all times in public. I still feel this need even though he’s older and more trustworthy than he used to be. It’s been hard for me to shake this feeling that he’s going to disappear.

Last weekend, the kids and I went on a weekend trip to the Galleria area in Houston. We stayed in a hotel and just went lots of different places and goofed off. On our little trip, I held onto him quite a bit because there were crowds and traffic and he just makes me nervous. Jackson kept up with Katie and Brittany is really great! She just stays right with us and I don’t worry about her running off. He asked me for the 100th time why I had to hold his hand and not Brittany’s. And I told him for the 100th time that Brittany stays with me without me holding my hand. I really don’t have to worry about her disappearing on me. He hates that answer and has never liked it when I give it to him. And is always resentful to have to hold my hand and resists having to do it.

Then he said, “I think you just like to hold my hand. I think you just love me so much that you want to hold onto me all the time.” And I just decided to go with it and tell him that is exactly right. That is the real reason why I want to hold his hand all the time. The rest of the weekend and several times since, he has very willingly and proudly held my hand without protest.

With him, it’s all about equality, unless *he* is shown favor. He’s fine with inequality if it’s in his favor. In other news, I’ve been trying as often as I can to hold both of the middles’ hands when go places. And you may see me twirling them both, one on each hand, if you see me walking with them.

He digs charts

Mikey likes charts. He likes lists. He likes to know what’s next. He would like to check boxes if given the opportunity. Anyway, he came home one day demanding to make a behavior chart after school one day. We had to do it RIGHT NOW!! And so since the whole thing was to hopefully help him behave better, I dropped what I was doing to go to Target to get some poster board and construction paper. He was pretty excited about it!


He pretty quickly got annoyed with this one and regretted wanting it, but we are still using it. I think maybe it has helped some when I remember to use it instead of just yelling. 🙂

We had a really bad morning yesterday. Hopefully the worst morning of the school year. Mikey just can’t/won’t do anything without me telling him over and over and over. And yesterday morning, I just lost it. I’ve been sick for days and Phillip was home sick too, but that’s not a good excuse. Anyway, in an effort to NOT have another morning like yesterday, I decided to make this chart while Mikey was at school.


Pretty cute, right?? And this morning it worked great! He was so excited about moving his little Mikey to the next spot. He got ready quicky and on his own and I didn’t have to tell him anything. Yay!! He even told me that I should have made this chart a long time ago. So while he was at school today, I decided to make one for after school too. I also decided to give his little Mikey arms and legs.



I knew that I would need some wild card type cards for the things that change from the routine of the chart. I think we’ll try this and see how well it works. I need to laminate these and get some sticky tack so I can stick the orange cards on there without having to use the little Mikey.


So I guess we’ll see how long this helps. Even if it only helps for a few weeks, it’s worth the effort. I’m hoping this will help him get the routine stuck in his head and get used to doing things without having to be told by me. He seriously hates when I yell at him and I don’t blame him, but sometimes it seems to be the only way that he follows through. We’re both sick of that! For now, I’m not going to mess with a weekend one. We’ll just maybe use this as we can on weekends or just not use a chart at all.

It’s facebook’s fault. And maybe instagram’s fault too.

iphone pic warning…seems to be all that I have time to take anymore.

I hate how I never blog anymore. I really do. It bugs me. I blame facebook. And instagram. I put everything there so I feel no need to put anything here. I’ve really thought lately about ditching facebook and just getting back to blogging. Ditching facebook would probably seriously improve my quality of life. Maybe one day I will. If I do, don’t be shocked.

Anyway, things are going really pretty well around here. I’ve got three in school all day Monday-Friday. That’s awesome!! Katie is stuck here with me quite a bit and we’re trying to learn how to deal with one another. It’s slow going, but maybe we’re making progress. Hard to tell most days. She can be so funny and clever, but the regularly seasonings of crying and whining and tantrums just wear on me. I know she’s three and I know things will continue to get better. I know that, but that still doesn’t make me any less tired and frustrated. Just keeping it real.


As of right now, Jack is making straight A’s. I’m hoping he can hold onto that for a few more days so that he can finally get straight A’s on a report card. He’s done very well in school since going back mid year last school year, but he hasn’t pulled straight A’s yet. He went to church camp last weekend and had a great time! He’s just a good kid. I don’t have many pictures of him…poor guy.

Mikey is doing pretty well in school. I love his teacher and she’s great at communicating with me. He’s had a few bad days, but nothing too extreme. He’s learning to read so that’s been fun for all of us. He loves reading to his siblings. Even Jackson will sit through his early readers and cheer him on. He finally got a haircut that is totally different than the haircut he’s had his entire life! That was his choice and he loves the new do.


And Brittany has become the most mellow and easy going of the four kids. I can take her anywhere. She’s pretty much always in a good mood. She has moments, but for the most part, she is seriously just a sweet, easy kid! I can’t believe how far she has come! She’s doing great in school and just seems to enjoy pretty much every situation she’s put into.


After almost getting rid of (or worse) our dog, Scott, I’ve decided for now to let him live in the house and I have to bathe him far more often than I’d like to. But he’s a pretty good dog and we rarely even know he’s around. Now that he lives inside again, he’s totally stopped digging out of the yard and running away. I think he was on some kind of suicide mission there for a while. It’s nice to not have to sweep up food as often.


So that’s pretty much all I have for an update right now. Things are good. We are in a pretty simple season of life right now and I just seriously can’t, or shouldn’t, complain.